learn to be alone

 

learn to be alone

 

Don't always think about being gregarious. In the world of crows, swans are also guilty. If you are a smart swan, I believe that the swan will not seek to socialize with the crow.

You always care about world events, national justice, and even the great favors of gods and Buddhas, but ordinary people will not share your aspirations, nor will they believe that your preaching can change real life. They only care about their own basic necessities, food, housing, and transportation. A crow's feathers will not become white and pure just because he befriends a swan. In this isolated world where all things coexist, a wolf never pays attention to the opinions of a sheep.

Agudengba accidentally came to the tent inn. He chatted with the innkeeper and his wife about Sinocentrism and the origin of the Chinese nation. However, he encountered a soft nail. They were just ordinary people and did not take Agudengba's remarks seriously. thing, because they have no interest in it at all.

Agudemba sat alone under a Bodhi tree and closed his eyes. You don’t need to fit in with the crowd, just be yourself. He began to ask himself.

Agudenba opened his eyes again and decided to set off immediately to continue his journey. He didn't want to talk about irrelevant topics. What he thinks about most now is where are he going now?

Agudengba took his donkey, bid farewell to the tent inn owner and his wife, and embarked on a new journey, but without a goal, he just followed the direction of the mountain road.

Along the way, Agudemba recalled his past experiences.

When I was young, I used to think that having friends all over the world would be the best life, but when you reach a certain age, you will find that it is actually a waste. There are many circles in life, and we don’t need to go around every one of them. The most disgusting thing about these circles is that almost all opponents and enemies come from people around them. It is the people around us who compete with each other, and it is the people around us who compete with each other for power. Traitors, traitors, and informants are also the people around us.

When people reach middle age, they will start to live alone. It's not that they don't have the ability to get along with others, but that they have gradually lost interest in making fun of others. As you grow older, you will understand that many of the troubles in our lives come from the eyes of others and from the vanity of always wanting to be recognized among the crowd. But you can't stand him, and he can't stand you. This is the norm in society. If you care too much about other people's opinions, it will make things difficult for yourself.

Along the way, Agudenba constantly reflected on his understanding of human nature:

Many honest people are actually a different kind of bad person. Because these people have not seen the world and do not understand the truth of society, they live as timidly as mice. But once they get the opportunity to benefit, they will immediately get into the granary and become unscrupulous and greedy. thief.

Talking about money with others will often turn you into a greedy wolf, and talking about feelings with others will often turn you into a cunning fox.

It's always right to praise others, especially when you don't want to say anything or don't know anything, just keep praising them. This is true for your boss, your colleagues, and even your romantic partner and your spouse. Arbitrary praise is actually a kind of deception.

It's never wrong to act stupid, especially when you see everything. The more clearly a person sees, the more likely he is to pretend to be confused. It is rare to be confused, to keep a low profile and to make a fortune in silence are all tricks to pretend to be stupid.

Money cannot change a person, money can only reveal one's true self. Money, like power, is an amplifier of human nature. Money makes noble people nobler, despicable people more despicable, profound people deeper, and shallow people shallower.

Agudengba observed the scenery along the way and could not see a single person except the mountains and flowing water.

He is reflecting on life again:

A relationship may not have equal returns, but there must be response. Never overestimate your relationship with anyone. No one in this world can never be separated from anyone. The most realistic state is to leave and have tea.

Everyone is struggling with life. Suffering losses is a shortcut to growing yourself quickly. After you make a mistake, don't explain it over and over again. Just admit it openly, learn from it, and promise not to make it again next time. However, many people admit their mistakes and even label themselves as inexplicably "making mistakes", but the ending is even worse. The autocratic emperors of the past dynasties never admitted their mistakes; neither Confucius nor Laozi ever admitted that they were wrong.

Most people don't recognize their own problems, but they have a preachy mouth. People despise and flatter each other. They hope that they are higher than others, and they prostrate themselves in front of others. Everyone shouts for democracy with one voice, but behind democracy there is always a dirty competition for interests hidden.

Liberals don't really want freedom, because freedom involves responsibility, and most people are afraid of taking responsibility.

People can defend themselves against other people's attacks, but they readily accept other people's compliments. The so-called high emotional intelligence means that you tell a lie and let the other person know it but accept it happily. If you have low emotional intelligence, it's because you have to apologize to the other person even though you told the truth.

The greatest ugliness of human nature is that you clearly have selfish motives, but you demand generosity from others. You always want others to treat you as a saint, while you secretly be a villain.

Those who you have helped are often the easiest to hurt you when you are in trouble. This is the eternal ugliness of human nature.

Along the way, Agudengba kept asking himself:

Many times, people will immediately put down their own ideas and choose to follow the superiors' ideas and ideas when their own ideas and perceptions are in conflict with their bosses on ambiguous matters. Even if the boss's thinking is obviously incomplete or flawed, he will not point it out immediately in public. At most, he will mention it in private at a chosen time and tactfully. It is even more forbidden to discuss the country's major policies and the monarch's decisions. It is the norm not to talk about the country's affairs.

When it comes to whether or not to do something ambiguous, try to see if it will benefit you. If something is ambiguous and there is neither benefit nor harm to you whether you do it or not, then don't meddle. Life has always been like this. The more you do, the more mistakes you make. The more mistakes you make, the more unfair evaluations you get. This is society’s revelation of human nature. Is this the absurdity of society or the absurdity of human nature?

Agudemba impromptu sang his self-composed song "Distorted Human Nature" on the road:

 

Don't pity others casually,

Especially your new friends.

Being soft-hearted is a fatal weakness,

Human nature is actually unfathomable.

Because there is too much pity,

Make yourself more miserable.

 

Remember to lend money while standing,

In the end, I knelt down and refused to come back.

Pies will not fall from the sky,

Either a trap or a trap.

All the so-called cheap things,

They are all bait to trap you.

 

Protect yourself first,

Then help others.

Saving people is a necessary good deed.

But it is not advisable to sacrifice your life to save others.

Break out of the circle that corrupts you,

Stay away from people who make you bad.

 

We must learn to take care of ourselves,

Be kind to yourself and stay out of the world.

Don't always try to change others,

Otherwise, you will be the one who suffers.

Learning to be alone is also wisdom,

Stay away from right and wrong and live a peaceful life.