learn to let go

 

learn to let go

 

Agudenba and Lacuo finally broke up. Along the way from Myanmar to Tibet, the two talked about almost everything. As the leader of the caravan, Lacuo could be said to take great care of Agudenba. But after arriving in Tibet, Latso had to return to Myanmar.

Agudemba led his donkey on a rugged mountain road and suddenly felt very lonely.

Donkey understood Agudenba's mood at this time very well. The donkey brayed suddenly, and it turned out that he saw the tent inn in front of him.

Agudemba and the donkey walked towards the tent inn.

The owner of the tent inn and his wife warmly received the guests from afar and presented Agudengba with a bowl of milk tea.

The host asked:

Why are you here alone, sir?

Agudemba said:

My friend who was traveling with me went back to Myanmar. We just broke up.

The master’s wife said to Agudumba:

In the vast sea of ​​people, if we meet, we will be different. Some people burst into your world unexpectedly, bringing you joy and filling your past with memories. You thought you would stay with each other until the end of your life. But fate can be deep or shallow. Some people are destined to become passers-by in your life, and you can't keep them even if you want to. In this world, not all relationships will last forever, and not everyone will always keep you in their hearts. No matter who leaves you, it is no surprise to give up on you.

Agudemba looked at the owner's wife and did not answer.

The master's wife continued:

When a familiar person gradually neglects you, alienates you, or even stops contacting you, it means that someone is replacing you. Adult relationships have no shelf life. When the relationship comes to an end, it can only be broken up. There is no need for you to be secretly sad because of someone's departure.

Agudumba finally smiled and said to his master’s wife:

My friends were very kind to me and were very welcoming and caring to me along the way. The reason why we broke up was very simple, that is, he was responsible for escorting me to Tibet. He completed the task and it was natural for him to go home. How could I say that my friend had neglected me?

The master smiled:

Sir, my wife misunderstood. She saw you walking alone and mistakenly thought you had lost your friend. Maybe, the more you care about something, the more it will torture you. If you don't care about your friends leaving, it means you are still you.

Agudemba said:

Thank you and your wife for caring about me. I understand your good intentions.

When a person's attitude toward you changes, your first reaction is loss and sadness. Because you don't know why he suddenly did this to you, and you can't figure out what you did wrong. If you keep worrying about this matter, bear the sorrow alone, and keep sending messages to the other person, lowering your posture and being humble to please, you will only get ridicule from the other person. Life is short, and wasting time and energy on people who are not worthy is the greatest harm to yourself. No matter what kind of relationship there is between people, once the weight of the balance is tilted, it can no longer be maintained.

However, this is not happening to me now, my breakup with my friend was short-lived and we remain in good contact.

The master smiled and said to Agudengba:

The gentleman is right. It can be seen that he is very open-minded. The most important thing in this world is to take care of yourself first. This is a simple truth, but it seems that you can only fully realize this after going through thousands of rivers and mountains.

Agudemba said:

There are indeed some people in life who will forget you and make you feel uncomfortable. But when I encounter these things or these people, my idea is that instead of using up all my passion for someone who doesn’t take me seriously, it’s better to take him out of my life, live a good life without contact or interruption. own days.

The master's wife asked:

In life, my husband and I have encountered such a person. We took the initiative to show kindness to him, but he always looked down upon our initiative and showed indifference to our persistence. How did you handle this situation?

Agudenba said:

Perhaps, he has never really valued you and just takes your enthusiasm for granted. He is just a passer-by when he comes to you as a guest. It is difficult for you to maintain this relationship with all passers-by.

In the final analysis, sincerity should not be trampled on at will. If true love continues to be ignored along the way, then separation will be the eternal ending. Meeting the wrong person at the wrong time is a mistake in itself. Guests come to you just for a temporary rest, not necessarily to find a close friend. For someone who doesn't care about you, no matter what you do, there is no way to change his attitude towards you.

If you try to save him and expect him to come back, you will only be disappointed.

Learning to let go helps others and respects yourself. Life is only a few decades long, you have to be able to take things and let them go. In fact, many friends in life are just passers-by on the road of life.

Someone once said to me: When in contact with someone who cares deeply, if he doesn’t reply for a long time, he will delete the dialog box without hesitation, because he doesn’t want to see himself looking humble and please, and he doesn’t want to experience that kind of fullness. The disappointment of losing. After all, humans are creatures who fear being left out, and seeking warmth and response is instinctive.

In my opinion, many times, when some people come into your world, it does not mean that they will last forever. The most unacceptable thing in a relationship is that you regard him as a very important person in your life, but he treats you as dispensable.

　　The master said:

There was a time when my wife and I were convinced that one of our clients was an irreplaceable best friend in our lives. We were honest with each other and experienced ups and downs together, as if we wanted to be one. I swore at that time that even when I was eighty years old, , we still have to move forward side by side. However, time flies by, and today, our relationship has become no different than that of strangers. Those vows of friendship that were once made seem very pale and ridiculous under the wash of reality.

Agudemba said:

No matter what the relationship is, there are often very few that can withstand the test. If neglect is a sign that a relationship is over, the best thing to do is to let it take its course and slowly let go over time.

What is relief? That is: don’t be distracted by your heart, don’t be trapped by emotions, don’t be afraid of the future, and don’t dwell on the past. Relief means not regretting what you miss, not letting go of what you have, and moving forward with a smile.

Agudengba impromptuly sang a song "Learn to Let Go" to the host and his wife:

 

We need to liberate our hearts,

No longer trapped by entanglements and persistence,

We must know how to make peace with life,

Learn to make peace with yourself,

For the rest of my life, I have to learn to let go.

Learning to heal yourself can adjust your mentality.

 

When the people you care about gradually neglect you,

The pain of loss and helplessness,

As if coming together like a tide,

Life is always full of variables,

We cannot control other people's emotions,

But we must embrace life again.

 

The best way to deal with it is six words:

It means disconnecting, letting go, letting go,

Cutting off contact gives yourself space to calm down.

No longer hurt by the other party’s indifference;

Letting go is finding relief from entanglements,

No longer clinging to past emotions;

To let go is to let go from the bottom of your heart,

Don’t dwell on past regrets.

Only in this way can we find ourselves,

and embrace a better future.